SuperMoms Roundtable

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I am pleased to inform you all that I will be a panelist in the SuperMoms Roundtable- an event organized  by Go Red and for a great cause- Women's Heart Health! Please click on the image to the right to learn more information.

Gearing Up for the end of school year

Yesterday I went with my children and a friend to the mall.  We were graduation shopping.  All I saw was moms with their babies in their strollers.  Then I saw young children playing in the Build a Bear workshop.  What happened with my children? Where did the time go?  I am so sad that the days have gone by.   This week is my daughter last ballet recital.  She started when she was 3---and now 14 years later it is over.

What I have learned--

today when I go to my son's lacrosse game I am going to focus and be grateful that he is still in high school and I can go to the game ( an added bonus is it is not raining!).  I am reminded how much I love my children and get to hug and kiss them one more time.

I have also learned that I am not done being a parent and that I still get to make my mark on them.  I am infusing as many of my values as I possibly can.  I am motivated to have that extra discussion with them.

Lets all enjoy the day to day routines before they are over!!

Daniel Comes Home for College

Saturday my 20 year old son comes home from college. I am so excited, nervous, and worried. We had a long talk about readjusting to Home life and being "parented" again. It brings to mind that we need to prepare to have him home again.
1-- talk about family rules and respect issues. Is it OK to stay out all night? Why or why not?
2--helping in the house-this is a big adjustment where in college you just take care of you
3--talk, talk, and talk.... it maybe 2 minutes at a time but talk through all the range of emotions.
4- acknowledge how Daniel is feeling.. it is hard for me but super hard for him.

so, hopefully after some conversations, and maybe in conflicts, we will get back in to a routine and develop an even stronger bond. I am certainly looking forward to trying!!!!

Not happy with how I handled my son

Yesterday, my 16 year old son found out that he is out of Lacrosse for 1 week (or more) due to a possible concussion.  He is feeling disappointed and frustrated about not being able to play in today's big game.  He had such a difficult morning getting ready for school and mouthed off quite a few times.  I should have just walked away, put some music on or left early for the gym. 

 Instead I went right into argument and made it 100 times worse than it needed to be.  What did I do? Yell back, Focus on his negative behavior and criticize him.  What should I have done? It is so important to remember as a parent that we are the teachers, the role model.  I truly could have more been patient, walked away, hugged him and let it all go.

I will tell him I am sorry and learn from this... .thank goodness I get a do over to be a better parent!

Radio Show Interviews on Work/Life Balance for the Monday Morning Blues

Lately, people have been asking me about work/life balance during a Recession. It is even more important today to make sure that are lives stay well-balanced. The idea is if we work really, really, really hard than nothing can happen to our jobs...not true!!!! we have to enjoy our whole lives, our friends, our family, our homes, pets... more than ever. So, that we can go back to work reenergized and feeling good. That way we can contribute the most to work and be the team player that everyone wants to work with. Get up , exercise, eat a healthy small portion breakfast and crank out monday and the rest of the week will be all good.

Watching my Sons Lacrosse Game

Today is my son's JV lacrosse game.  I have learned, finally how to be a good mom and watch from the sidelines.  It is not that easy-- you have to quiet, appropriately cherry and friendly to all.  Especially in Lacrosse which is a violent sport.  I try to take a deep breath and realize that my son is in his glory and is happy to have him good old mom watching and supporting him.  That is my role-- a quiet cheerleader.  Secretly I just pray that he doesn't get hurt.  I am thrilled that he is learning to be a good loser and a good winner.  I am also thrilled that he has some of his own cheerleaders come to watch him.  It is a great lesson for me to watch, observe and enjoy!!

outrageed by Madlyn Primoff/take a bli course and be a better parent!!!

How can a mother leave her children on the side of the road? I get you might think of doing that ...but you don't actually do it... This reaffirms why what I do for a living is crucial. We need to learn to be better parents and not screw our children up. I certainly understand her stress of 2 children fighting in the car...but she left her 10 year old to be comforted by a stranger and then the police were involved. That is traumatic and totally unacceptable. Take a parenting course to handle your stress!!!! please